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Dear He’s Mine,

I understand that Johnny was your friend first, and it's natural to have strong feelings about your friendships. However, it's important to recognize that Johnny is your friend, not your boyfriend. It seems you may be experiencing jealousy towards Becky, which could indicate deeper feelings for Johnny.

To navigate this situation effectively, I recommend reflecting on your feelings for him. If you wish to rebuild your friendship with Johnny, it would be wise to apologize for any misunderstandings and to respect his boundaries. It may also be beneficial to clarify your role within their relationship.

If you find it challenging to respect his boundaries and continue to feel possessive, it might be best to reconsider efforts to restore the friendship. It is completely normal to feel as though you are "losing" a close friend when they enter a new relationship; however, it is essential to acknowledge that their connection with Becky differs from what you have with him.

I hope you can gain clarity regarding your feelings and potentially work towards mending your friendship with Johnny.

Best regards,

WOO

Dear Wise Old Owl,

I am currently in a huge predicament. My best friend, Johnny, has this girlfriend, Becky, but I just HATE her. She is so annoying, and she is always clinging to him. It is literally so annoying. I’m not trying to be one of those possessive needy girl best friends, but I just don’t like her always being with him. Like he was mine first, I deserve more time with him since he is MY best friend. I brought this up to Johnny already and he got so unreasonably mad at me it was insane. But now he won’t talk to me, and I’m starting to miss him and feel bad.

Should I leave the friendship or try and make things work? Am I that much in the wrong here?

Sincerely,

He’s Mine